In today’s post I am going to shed some light on why you are a people pleaser and what that does to you as a person and as a spiritual being.
We are spiritual beings created to do great things here on this earth. If you are constantly being a “people pleaser” to the detriment of your own health & well being, then you are headed down the wrong path. It is from my personal experience that I know that “people pleasers” are actually kind hearted people that want to help but just don’ t know when and how to draw the line when it comes to doing things out of “obligation” instead of from the heart. This type of behavior stems back to childhood in most cases. We were taught to take care of others as we watched our mothers and our grandmothers take care of everyone else and not take care of themselves properly. Women especially deal with this because we are natural givers. We were designed that way. And although I am not suggesting that you no longer take care of others, I am suggesting that you do not put others needs before your own. We cannot take care of other people if we don’t first take care of ourselves. On an airplane, we are told in case of emergency to put on our oxygen mask before administering one to our child. The same goes for our dealings with others in life.
Oftentimes, we give and give until we have no more to give and we become bitter, and resentful towards others and in turn we neglect ourselves by overeating, indulging in destructive behaviors and it can even turn into depression. If you have experienced what I am talking about then you can relate to the feelings. Those feeling tend to worsen if you feel like you “have” to do something or you “have” to be somewhere because you “owe” it to the person. I struggled with this for years. I always felt obligated and bad if I didn’t show up to something. Any time you feel obligated to do something, you need to take a step back and say to yourself “Self, you don’t owe anybody anything”.
Never put yourself in the predicament where you feel as if you have to be at the mercy of other people. Do things because you want to do them, do things because you like to do them, do things because it gives you joy… not because you “have to”. There are so many things in our lives that make us feel like we “have” to do things. We “have” to go to work, we “have” to go to school, we “have” to succeed. We have been programmed to think that we “have” to do all these things. And if we don’t do them, we feel less than… The stay-at-home mom is made to feel as if she is less than the mom who works her way up the corporate ladder why? The college dropout is frowned about because afer-all you “have” to finish college right? These are man made views that have been forced upon us. The stay-at-home mom finds it all joy to stay home with her precious children and raise them. The college dropout may just be your next billionaire like Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg and Steve Jobs just to mention a few. All of these “have to’s” take us away from what is really important. Do you know what you “have” to do? Nothing. There is nothing in this life that you “have” to do, but there is one thing in this life that you “should” do… and that is take care of your health. You should understand that your health is all you have. Ask someone who has been sick… ask someone who has mental health issues, ask someone who has lost a loved one to ill health.
You can be rich with all the money in the world, but without good health, your money means nothing. Without your health, you can’t help others and without your health, you are literally a burden on others.
So today, my friend, I encourage you to Free yourself of the “have to” mentality when it comes to others and turn that “have to” mentality onto yourself.
You deserve to live Free and to do the things that you were created to do. Take some quiet time to reflect on the things you would like to do and are passionate about. Share it with others and show your greatness! You were born for a purpose, not to live at the expense of others but to be free and live greatly! This kind of living will free your mind, your body and your soul…
Let me know what you are passionate about. Let me know if you are ready to get healthy. I would love to hear from you. I can help you get started on the road to health, wealth & Freedom!
Until next time…
Take Care and Have a Blessed Day,